Self-esteem and Confidence

Are you struggling with your self-worth, self-esteem which effects your confidence? My coaching can help you and offers advice and support.

A lack of self-esteem or self-confidence can have a knock-on effect across all areas of our lives, from relationships and work to mental health.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. …Confidence comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (self-esteem) and belief in your own ability, skills and experience. To overcome low self-esteem, you need to make conscious efforts to improve the way you think and feel about yourself.

What is self esteem?

If you haver low self-esteem then you are not able to generalise from the good results you are getting, you lack the ability to hear praise and because of this you will constantly underachieve. You may spend a whole lifetime underestimating yourself and feel unworthy.

Ask yourself the following questions below.

  • Can I take a compliment without deflecting it, or without qualifying it in my head?
  • Can I list 5 things about myself without hesitating?
  • How to I react to trying new things?
  • What am I telling myself when. I'm about to do something challenging?

Do your answers suggest that you like yourself? 


Symptons of low self-esteem and confidence

  • Sensitivity to criticism
  • Social withdrawal
  • Hostility
  • Excessive preoccupation with personal problems
  • Physical symptoms such as fatigue, insomnia and headaches
  • Procrastination
  • Fear of failure

Try these confident boosting tips

The simplest and most effective way to take a compliment is to simply say "thank you". Hear the compliment in your head or say it out loud to yourself and say "thank you". Practice in fromt of a mirror.Always smile and say thank you when receiving a comment.
Liking yourself
List everything you can think of that you like about yourself. Do this over a period of a week. use your values and beliefs, your environment, and your behaviour. You will be surprised how big your list will end up.
Try new things
If you suffer from anxiety and fear, spell out the worse case scenario in your m ind. Sometimes this is enough to make you realise how unlikely the fear really is. Think about how someone who likes trying new things would go about trying something new.

People with self-esteem don't need to prove themselves. The don't boast, put others down, show off, name drop, hog the conversation and make it all about them.
High self-esteem looks like this; quietly confident, don't fish for compliments, but do accept them, humble, are interested in others and not bothered about receiving external recognition.

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How I can help you

Clinical hypnotherapy involves using the same psychological processes that you use every day. By engaging your imagination, beliefs, thoughts, expectations, and motivations, you can make positive changes to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.

Increasing self-confidence involves understanding where you feel you currently lack confidence,and observing the people, places, situations, thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that you experience in those situations. There may be times when you do feel more confident, so it’s important to be aware and appreciate what the circumstances are so that you can potentially apply those tools to other, more difficult, areas of your life.  Using NLP techniques and hypnosis is a very effective way to improve confidence and self esteem.

"I‘ve always struggled to manage my anxiety and have tried all sorts of different therapies in the past. I contacted Hayley and immediately felt that she “got me”! I started my journey with her and felt positive change right from the first session. Hayley listened and understood. I participated in online hypnotherapy sessions using headphones and it was just like being in the same room as her. He voice is hypnotic and I easily found myself drifting into a trance. The results of these sessions were powerful and instant! I felt relaxed, energised and renewed! Hayley is skilled, professional, encouraging and empowering! I would highly recommend that everyone invest in the own personal development and see immediate results with Hayley".
A. Oldham

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