“Writing a book has been a difficult challenge for me because I want it to be perfect. I am a control freak and struggle with a process that I do not understand fully”.
The book “Freedom From Anxiety” is a self help book and guide with tools and strategies to help people with every day anxieties and fears. 1 in 3 people suffer with anxiety at some point in their lives.
Anxiety is not a mental illness its all about mental health and wellbeing. An anxiety disorder is when your anxiety gets out of control and starts to affect your life.
“Your mind is your prison when you focus on your fear.”
We are born with two fears. the fear of noise and the fear of falling. Everything else is learnt as we grow into adults. Quite often we find anxiety starts in children and can sometime be a underlaying cause of trauma and PTSD. Until we really explore why we feel the way we do, we struggle to move forwards.
My book explores my journey with anxiety and what the root cause of it actually was. My story has been cleverly written within the chapters of this book, to help other reader’s relate and to think about their own lives and hopefully have their “light bulb” moment just like I did.
Following the book I will be launching my online course so that I can help many more people renew themselves anywhere in the world with my expertise, tools and techniques. Look out for details in the near future. You are not alone, and it’s my mission to help many more people break free of their worries and fears.
“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.”
– Dan Millman
Here is a snippet from. my book launched on kindle 1st May. The hardcopy of my book is launched quickly after around the 10th of May if not sooner. There are so many exercises to do, tools and techniques and I can not wait to receive feedback from my readers.
FREEDOM FROM ANXIETY
Ever wondered why there are some people with whom you just don’t see eye-to-eye? Perhaps you know some people who are very black and white in their thinking while others are able to see the grey areas and nuances in between. Maybe you have a vision of a more utopian world, devoid of war and conflict, yet see so much separation as you look around you. One thing is for sure – humans are deeply complex beings. We are all here having our own individual experience of life, yet along the way we forget this. We assume that others should think and feel the way we do and often when they don’t, conflict and disagreements arise, especially in our closest relationships.
I grew up thinking that I was never good enough in my mother’s eyes. I strived to achieve more to gain her approval yet took her silence, and what I perceived to be disinterest, as a personal failure. Because she never said that she was proud of my achievements I interpreted that as her not caring or even acknowledging me. I questioned her love for me and our relationship felt strained.
When I did the suitcase exercise from the previous chapter during my coaching training, I visualised taking my people-pleaser and over-giving tendencies out of the suitcase. I realised then that everything I did was to prove myself to my mum. I wanted to please her more than I wanted to please myself. One day I sat with her and opened up about how I felt and how all my life I just wanted her love. Naturally this was a shock to her. From my mum’s perspective she hadn’t seen that she was doing anything wrong. She certainly hadn’t intended to cause any upset. Since that conversation we’ve been able to build a better and stronger relationship as we have a deeper understanding of each other. We respect and accept our differences. We don’t always agree on things, yet we can still have a healthy relationship regardless. Because I was so consumed by the lack that I felt and my self-perceived inadequacies, I wasn’t able to see my mum’s own struggles with anxiety and depression, which she has since opened up about.
The adage ‘you don’t know what you don’t know’ is so true in our day-to-day interactions. We form snap judgements about people based on their behaviour, without pausing to consider what is driving it. Perhaps they’re experiencing difficulties in their home life or have had some bad news? Maybe someone has crossed a personal boundary or their beliefs are being challenged? Or, quite simply, they don’t see things the same way that we do. The greatest wars are often the ones we have with ourselves. The more storms that brew in our mind, the cloudier our perception of the world and the way we experience it.
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